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Ideals shifting... May 30, 2006 - 20:13:56
So today I went home briefly for a short while because I had to get some items for the wedding I'm going to on Saturday. Additionally, I'm going to be gone this entire weekend because I have an advanced campaign staff training in So, at my parents house I ate some dinner and then sat down to read the latest Newsweek. This is the part that has gotten me thinking and thus writing my current blog entry. You see the focus article was called "Rethinking the Marriage Crunch". 20 years ago Newsweek predicted that a single woman over the age of 40 has a greater chance of being killed by a terrorist than getting married; now, they are claiming how they are wrong. Wrong.... interesting. One aspect of why they are wrong was the "chance" factor but the fact the women are WAITING because they WANT to, because they are choosing to be picky about who they marry and thus their marriages are lasting longer than others. There is an old adage that the longer someone waits to get married the more likely their marriage is to last...makes sense correct? However, this is were it turns befuddling to me Wrong again, this predictor is starting to head the way of the blue-footed booby just like the old adages that men will not want to marry and educated woman. You see part of this reasoning is that women are getting more educated and thus are more secure in their independence so it provides a greater opportunity for women to be able to change their position in life, such as getting out of a bad marriage, much easier. Additionally, the more educated the woman is the more likely they are to wait to get married. Do you see the correlation? Additionally, they claim that people who are incredibly picky have a tendency to pick on people’s flaws rather than let a relationship grow together wither both people's faults and quirks. *smacks head* Newsweek: "The old wisdom was the more successful a woman was professionally, the harder it would be to find an equally accomplished mate. But that's changed, too. for some women, financial security creates an expanded pool of men from which to choose, whether they marry a starving artist or simple another professional whose earnings or status isn't as high as their own. Those role reversals represent a shifting power balance in marriage, which often results in more-egalitarian relationships in which who does the housework, care for the children or mows the lawn are open to negotiation". Again this brings up another befuddling aspect of marriage. So what’s the final word the Newsweek has to say, “…chart your own course” because if you want to get married then most likely you will. For women AND men it’s a matter of just wanting to get married not chance. However, to make a marriage survive isn’t just about picking the right age, that’s only about 0.0001% of making a marriage work. It is work and accepting someone else because we as Americans are living in a very individualistic and self-serving culture. So here’s my question to you: in a culture that is (literally) on the brink of a cultural change (in every aspect of the meaning) how do you change and be flexible with the outside environmental pushes and pulls while trying to adjust and live with someone else and be flexible privately? I leave this up to you to contemplate but Iknow looking at this data it is changing my ideas about marriage and what my "ideal" future would hold because in the end statistics mean bull s*** . I'm thinking it... - Kid [ Comments ( 1 ) ]
Hi ho hi ho.. May 23, 2006 - 13:30:57
...it's off to Chippewa I go! Yes, I am starting a new campaign for an assembly candidate who is ranked 2nd in the state for winning their race. It's really almost like a promotion to some extent. I have to admitt I'm a little ....well, scared isn't the right word but since I can't think of any other word to describe it I'll use 'scared' for now. However, this does bring up the next decision of where the heck am I going to live. Do I live in Eau Claire and commute to work or live in Chippewa and commute to class. Seeing as I have a much more likely chance of getting an apartment in Eau Claire. Well, actually, you see I think I've already found an apartment. Now people need to tell me if this is a good deal or not. I pay 100 for the 1st month and then 200 for the next two months (I'm living there 3 months), and then I pay a 100 for deposit, electric not included, the leaser/renter originally paid 700/month for the place, it is on lake front property and the patio opens up to face the lake and I will have a roommate from S.Korea who wants to learn english. I will be looking at the place on Wednesday with the other student and if it looks nice why not. The apartment will also be fully furnished too. The other option is for me to live with a volunteer who's contribution is putting me up in their extra room but for me, it's worth 200/month to have my own space and to not have to worry about pleasing and tip toeing around someone. So sue me I'm a little territorial and I like my space to some degree, I like having the feeling of ownership in my surroundings. Also, I have to figure out when I need start my summer class....yeah for Philosophy of Law. But my professor is pretty darn hot. I'll catch ya'll later. I'm thinking it... - Kid [ Comments ( 0 ) ]
Weekends... May 22, 2006 - 9:42:54
So. I went into the cities this weekend to do some shopping and it went well. Saturday went well we went ot the Mall of America and we did some shopping but everyone was so incredibly tired that we went back to Leah's house adn took naps. Leah and I woke up and then went to Rocky however the poor Neil-io was so exhausted he didn't go to Rocky and slept for about 14 hours from the time the nap started 8pm to about 11am the next morning. Saturday was the second time I've gone shopping at the MOA and I can honestly say that it will be a very long time before I go again. Anyway, Rocky was interesting. I was a "virgin sacrafice" (a Rocky virgin is someone who hasn't seen the show done live before) and I got to play the game 'Lets have an Orgasim' on stage. As I said...quite interesting. We were suppose to give our best interpretation of having an orgasim on stage. Not too surprisingly I won the 'competition' even though I kept getting interupted during my build up. On the whole though Rokcy is definatly an interesting trip and should be done by everyone atleast once in their lives. Then on Sunday Leah made some great breakfast and as she went off to listen to some bands, Neil and I went off to do some more shopping.....or so we thought we were. You see, you shouldn't ever trust directions that google map gives you. THEY SUCK! The directions that google map gave us did not work out b/c the streets that they said were going to be there weren't and then teh streets were wrong and somewhere along the way google map decided to make up streets that don't exist. So we asked for directions...again....and again....and again....and again....a total of about 5 times we stopped and asked for directions and not a single time did anyone give us the SAME directions nor use the same streets. We ended up taking an unwanted tour of the entire Twin Cities for about 4 hours only to find out that it was 3 turns and 15 minutes away from where we originally started but google map decided to give us the long and hard way to get there. However, the day wasn't such a bust because we did get to do some shopping there and we went out to eat at a really good restaurant that has my favorite obscure beer on tap. 'Twas a good weekend. Now today I'm back at work and waiting to talk to my potential future new candidate. We'll see how that goes so wish me luck or pray for me or do something...I don't know whatever you see fit. Have a good one ya'll. I'm thinking it.... - Kid [ Comments ( 2 ) ]
whirl wind time... May 19, 2006 - 14:20:08
Keep in mind I'm have been going through me week (finals week) with only taking naps. Naps on the floor of my private research room in the library in my sleeping bag. I will work all day and then do the stuff I need to get done and then take a 2-4 hour nap, wake up, do a little more work for about 6 hrs, then take another nap and then start the day again. My back hurts like hell from the floor and went for 72 hr without sleeping in a bed. So I've been in a bit of whirlwind lately. 1st-I get a call that I'm needed on the fire line and os I go through the interview. 2nd--I find out that there is another candidate who needs a campagin administrator more than my current candidate. This sets things in motion. Because I find out that my bosses have then volunteered me to switch candidates and this other candidate is about 35 minutes away in a different town. That means I would have to commute the shit out my days/weekends...you name it. Not only that, but now, I have an offical job offer to go to Boise Idaho for a fuels crew GS-4 position!!! THIS IS A JOB THAT MANY A FIRE PEOPLE WOULD KILL FOR!! I am serioulsy hurting to go to Idaho but I know that it really is a dead end there. Also, the candidates here really do need me. F***..... Plus I don't want to burn any bridges. What's a girl to do. Well I can tell you, that this girl went swing dancing! Yup last night I went into the Cities with a group of friends and danced my little feet off. IT WAS GREAT--the perfect stress reliever. So I'm going on a big shopping spree this weekend with a couple friends and I'm going to be looking for some dancing outfits and shoes because this is going to be a little more regular. YEAH! The only bad thing I would say is that an older gentleman who danced with me a couple of times tried to keep lifting me and he wasn't doing it dorrectly so I now have a crink in my back...ouch. This week has not been the best for my back obviously. However, I still havn't made up my mind about whether or not I'm going to take the Idaho position or the other candidate position. What would you do? I'll catch ya later all, I thinking it.... - Kid [ Comments ( 0 ) ]
Another question.... May 14, 2006 - 13:15:52
So I went out with my brother on Friday night and it turned out suprisingly fun! Yeah. However, evertime I was introduced as "Adrian's Sister" everyone was like "What the #$%^ ?!, Adriand has a sister?!". So the evening went. Additonally, when we went to a dance club I started dancing (anyone who knows my kind of dancing will understand) with one of my brother's friends. However, half way through the song he put his hands up and said..."Holy shit, I can't do this....the only thing that's going through my head is that YOU'RE ADRIAN'S LITTLE SISTER!". Which was really sad b/c I was using him as a cock block from the numerous other guys trying to hit on me. So,in the afternoon the next day we had Adrian's graduation ceremony which actually went quite nicely. They had bagpipes parade the academia in and the speakers were quite nice. Except the student speaker...she lacked pazzaz. What was really interesting about the main commencement speak was this: he was a political science (tenured) professor at UWGB and he retired at the age of 55 to then start up and be a co-founder of a science-fiction magazine AND THE SCI-FI NETWORK! He was a really entertaining speaker. Then we went out for dinner at a "grill-your-own-steak house". 17.50 for any steak you want from the fridge (they had a huge variety you got to pick your own) and unlimited access to the salad and bake potator bar. The entire time I was thinking this is what's wrong with America and thank goodness for it! It was one of the best meals I've had in a longtime and considering I hadn't eaten all and I figured why not go all out. I was so full that I seriously (yes I am serious) felt drunk. It was the best freshes steak I've had in a LONG time and damn ther services was excellent. Amen for American obesity. Which reminds that although I have a very nice weight right now, I need to start working out again. So here's the question of the day: Should I get a gym membership (which I can get for pretty cheap) OR should I just do my own program between running and swimming. Please keep in mind that the gym in the same building as my work and but my work has a lot of time constraints. I'm thinking it.... - Kid [ Comments ( 3 ) ]
role change? May 12, 2006 - 1:32:08
Now I'm starting to be the pessimistic one that once you let them go they never come back. Damn it , that's not suppose to be my role... I'm thinking it.... - Kid [ Comments ( 0 ) ]
Question> May 10, 2006 - 15:10:05
So my brother is graduating from Green Bay this weekend. As I will be there the entire weekend for teh graduation through the Mother's Day celebrations I sure it wil be a lovely time. *Ed. Anyone who knows my relationship with my brother can catch the hind of sarcasim in that sentence* Not only that but he has invited me to go drinking with him at the grad parties. Ladies and Gentlemen this is a recipe for distaster. Either that, or it will be an opportunity to bond with my brother on another level. So I pose this question to you all: Should I go drinking with my brother or stay in the hotel and get some work done? Let me know what you think b/c the last time I went drinking with my brother it ended up in us not talking to each other for about 1 1/2 yrs. However, the last time I saw my brother he was very cordial and down right sweet to me (for his attitude). Have a good one ya'll. - Kid [ Comments ( 2 ) ]
damn you... May 5, 2006 - 15:14:45
When you've cried too much that you have no more tears left and you've striped of everything except your clothes.....what do you do? - Kid [ Comments ( 2 ) ] |
