This last weekend I drove up to Milwaukee to see my parents. While I was there, I managed to hang out with my friend Chris. Chris has been one of my best friends since high school, and was the best man at my wedding - but we hadn't seen each other in quite some time. We'd texted a few times in November, but this honestly may have been the first time the two of us were in the same room for well over a year.
And this got me to thinking about how terrible I am at keeping in contact with people. I mean, I'm better than I used to be -- I actually do keep in semi-regular touch with my parents these days. But I am absolutely terrible about making calls, shooting emails and texting with friends who aren't in the same town as me.
I used to beat myself up about it (and had more than one person get mad at me for it), but then I came to a realization. As Chris said to me Saturday night, he hadn't called me either. For every person I don't think to call, they don't think to call me. In truth, a lot of us are really bad at keeping in touch with other people.
So I think we all need to be a little more forgiving -- both to ourselves and to those we care about who are far away. It can be hard to find the time to reach out, and we're all just as guilty of it as everyone else.
Does that mean we shouldn't try harder? Absolutely not. I for one am going to try to keep in touch with Chris more (as he's an awesome dude and hanging out with his is a lot of fun). We just can't get mad at ourselves when we come up a bit short from time to time.